Ancient martial art training methods will make you more self aware. Through practice and secret training activities you develop your sensitivities...
First, lets define self awareness: Wikipedia defines it as “Self-awareness is the capacity for introspection and the ability to recognize oneself as an individual separate from the environment and other individuals.”
As you train you become more self aware. This is because you get to know yourself better physically, mentally, and emotionally.
There are many benefits to being self aware but for our purpose today lets use it to represent the ability to make optimal choices in moments of distress i.e. conflict.
As you train with a partner you are learning about how you handle yourself in close proximity. When you spar against someone better than you you learn about what it feels like to be the prey versus the predator. (An important concept we’ll discuss in great detail later)
Through practice, you continue to learn about yourself on many levels simultaneously transforming your ability to accomplish your physical and mental goals.
Through practice you are quicker, more accurate, and more confident.
When you train consistently you begin to see a correlation between repetition and the lessening of your natural fear response. This is a critical insight.
When you are afraid you may over-react or under-react to a situation. You may attack prematurely or not quick enough.
The more self aware you become the greater your chance of attuning to your environment or potential choices that lead to the best outcomes.
"When you are afraid you may over-react or under-react to a situation. You may attack prematurely or not quick enough." Ed Ferrigan
In nearly all conversations I’ve had with people in domestic violence situation or other attacks we could trace bad decisions back to being unaware of the environment or ignoring or overriding the signals being sent during communication leading up to the attack.
Let me give you an example. Let’s say your boyfriend is showing signs of violence. Part of you is now confused and in your self talk negotiating between his good behavior and his bad behavior. “What should I do?” or “He’s not always this way…” and so on. In your mind you may be justifying his behavior or overriding what it might mean in the bigger scheme of things.
When you are self aware and clear about your values the answer is obvious and clear how to handle these red flags. You point out the discrepancy as soon as it happens and ask them what is going on.
Their answer will tell you a lot.
If they get defensive they are not seeing your perspective and that’s a huge red flag to pay attention to. If they get curious and admit they have a problem then you know they probably have good intentions to self correct. (Only experience and later proof will tell you that for sure.)
Any breaches in the future are now about trust. Again you point out the breach in what they said they would do in the previous incident and see how they handle it. It will be up to you to decide how many breaches you are willing to tolerate.
I can share from personal experience sometimes it can take several times to shift any bad habit. On the “11th” time the person can catch them-selves and shift it permanently. Everyone is different and everyone has a different tolerance level for what they are willing to put up with.
That all for today. Be sure to ask your questions and comment below and share with your friends by clicking the share buttons. I appreciate your help in getting the word out. Until next time practice.
Ed Ferrigan has been training in the martial arts since 1985. He trains to reap the benefit of physical conditioning and developing focus. He follows the philosophy of his primary teacher Grand Master Al Dacascos in that we practice with the intention to adapt to all situations. The best attitude to train with is one of humbleness, kindness, and respect for all of life.